In the image above, the left figure shows how I react to a “minor” event that triggers deep emotional reactions based on previous trauma that accumulates over time. The right figure is how a person with privilege might view the same “minor” event and judge my reaction as an “overreaction”.
This is why you need to understand how micro-agressions work and accept that over time they become heavy burdens to bear if you want to help people from marginalised groups.